Talking Points with Your Guy: A His and Hers Quiz

MARRIAGES fail mainly because couples fail to communicate well with each other--not only when they’re already married, but, more important, before they tie the knot. What are the things you discuss with your boyfriend? How clear are you and your boyfriend about issues that can make or break your marriage? Start serious discussion on these issues by taking this quiz...

SEX

Which one describes YOU best?

A.  Uninhibited, open-minded, willing to try anything

B.  So-so-not too hot, not too cold

C.  Repressed, have religious, behavioral, and cultural limitations

D.  I don’t know.

A.  Passionate, physically needy

B.  Have normal appetites

C.  Um, just ok. I will have sex as required

D.   I don’t know if I really like sex or not.

A.  I keep myself updated by reading a lot of articles on sex.

B.  Oral sex? What’s that?

C.  I don’t care to know much about sex, and would rather not talk about it.

D.  I feel I need to know more.

MONEY and WORK

What are YOUR habits?

A.  I spend wisely, planning my big purchases.

B.  I’m a one-day millionaire. Tomorrow will take care of itself.

A.  I stick to my budget and even keep records.

B.  I just spend at will. No record-keeping for me.

A.   I wait for bargains.

B.  I must have a certain item, no matter what the cost.

A.  I like having savings.

B.  Money is for spending.

A.  I try to be financially independent.

B.  I don’t mind asking help from my parents or relatives.

A.  I have big dreams for my family--our own house, car, trips abroad, good education for my kids.

B.  I’ll just wing it. Que sera sera.

A.  I am a highly motivated worker and achiever.

B.  I will just do my work, period.

C.  I live by the ‘If someone else will do it, let them do it’ rule.

A.  I am a team player.

B.  I am always at odds with the people in my workplace.

C.  I get by.

A.  I love my job. I will work on going up the ladder.

B.  I hate my job. I will resign if I can.

C.  It’s just a job and I just do what I should.

A.   I can work with anyone.

B.   I don’t want to have a boss/I don’t want to work.

A.   I like having my own business.

B.   I have no business sense.

ENTERTAINMENT

What are YOUR choices?

A. I’m a homebody.

B.  I’m a party animal.

C.  I can be a homebody and a party animal.

A.  I am a loner. One or two friends will do.

B.  My barkada is part of my life.

C.  My partner is the whole world to me--no one else matters.

A.  I like the outdoors and sports-biking, basketball, mountain-climbing…

B.  My idea of entertainment is just television and movies.

C.   Just give me a good book.

D.  I like having varied entertainment options.

E.  None. I’d rather work my butt off.

A.  I like adventure.

B.  I’m a mallrat.

C.  I like adventure and malling.

D.  I don’t care for any of those.

A.   Comedies and variety shows are my favorites.

B.   I can’t live without detective shows.

C.   News and documentaries are my main fare.

D.   Reality TV is my cup of tea.

E.   I’d rather read or sleep than watch TV.

F.   I’m a TV addict-anything will do.

A.    I love movies. My favorites are:

1.   Classics

2.   Art films and indies

3.   Popcorn flicks

        4.   Romances

5.   Comedies

6.   Sci-fi

7.   Fantasy

8.   Mysteries

9.   All of the above

B.    I don’t love movies. I fall asleep watching them.

A.  I love music.  I have a collection of my favorites:

1.   Classical music and opera

      2.   Movie themes

3.   Instrumentals

4.   Oldies but goodies

5.   Jazz

6.   Rock

7.   Country

8.   All of the above

B.  I don’t have any particular interest in music.

FOOD

A.  Cooking is my strong suite.

B.  I hate the kitchen.

C.  So-so. I cook when needed.

A.  I am a foodie.

B.  I eat to live, not live to eat.

A.   I like experimenting and will eat anything once.

B.   I stick to familiar food.

A.   Fast food is the way to go!

B.   Only fine dining for me!

A.   Ugh, vegetables!

B.   Vegetables are ok.

C.   I am a vegetarian and I think everyone should follow suit.

A.   I love eating out.

B.   Home-cooked meals are the best.

C.   Dining in? Eating out? Whatever. Both work for me.

CLOTHES and APPEARANCES

What matters to YOU?

A.  My partner must be attractive at all times.

B.  My partner must be conservatively dressed always.

C.  Whatever his/her personal appearance is ok with me.

A.  My partner must be in fashion.

B.  My partner can create any style he/she wants.

A.  I must have a say in what he/she wears.

B.  He/she can make her own decisions.

A.  I would recommend a total makeover.

B.  He/she is perfect!

C.  Some improvements would be nice.

A.  I believe that ‘clothes make the man/woman.’

B.  Clothes are not that important.

A.    Makeup is a must.

B.    I prefer the ‘no makeup’ look.

C.    I don’t like too much makeup.

A.  I spend too much on clothes, shoes, and bags. I actually have a closet full of them.

B.  I shop for classic, long-lasting clothes.

C.  I don’t like spending on clothes.

RELIGION/FAMILY/CHILDREN/POLITICS/ENVIRONMENT/CULTURE

On a scale of 1 to 5, with 5 as the best answer, rate yourself:

____ I believe in religion and keep my faith practices.                        

____ I have close ties with my parents.                                      

____ I have close ties with my brothers and sisters.                            

____ I had a happy childhood.                                                     

____ I would love to have a family of my own.                         

____ I am nationalistic and keep myself informed on issues.                       

____ I care for the earth.                                                                

____ I enjoy art and culture.         

If your results show too wide a variance, heed the danger signs of your great differences. Soul mates may be difficult to find nowadays, and it may be too much to expect a perfect match. But matching choices would mean greater compatibility, which is good. Then again, as some would say, opposites attract. Changing the other? Well… something can change, or can be changed. But a person’s choices and preferences are set, and change can be difficult, even impossible. Not even for love?  Well, one can be quixotic, optimistic, romantic, or prayerful of miracles….

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What Do You Discuss with Your BF?

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              We discuss a lot of things. It matters (and I am glad) that he is interested and open to a lot of things, from the importance of a tissue paper to the latest government issues-and he’s even my consultant on which clothing looks good on me. When it comes to preferences, we have the same taste for clothing: casual and comfortable. We don’t follow fashion trends because we know our personality and it’s reflected on all of our items, though I tend to be on the Bohemian side. And when there is a need to glam up, we know how to dress on a formal occasion. Food? We eat a lot. We like cooking together. We’re not chefs but we try to emulate the food we’ve tried on restaurants. We like watching good TV programs-no sitcoms or telenovelas. We are both musically inclined. He plays the guitar, I sing. Our iPod is the proof, I guess. Trust me, we like all genres. We even have Japanese songs, Korean songs, French and German songs, and World Music on our playlist. If watching a movie is a sport, then ours is a movie marathon. We have a wide collection of big-budgeted and indie movies. In so many ways, my boyfriend and I have the same wavelength. We do have our differences, too. For example: I like sleeping in the dark and he does not. Our differences make the relationship work because we learn to compromise. - Dhorj Escusa

Things I discuss with my boyfriend: money, parents, clothes, particularly favorite shops, where to shop, type of clothing he wouldn’t want me to wear, food such as favorite cuisine, cooking, least favorite food, where to eat, and entertainment: celebrity crushes, what movies to watch, favorite movies, favorite songs. - Paulette Pillarta

We talk about video games, movies, and music. We also talk about our families and friends and our business. - Ma. Jocelyn C. Bordador

We talk about sex and food. - Virgie Eulogio-Abaca

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